About a week ago I posted the following as my status update on Facebook:
To Facebook – I love you, but need a break. So this is not a break up, but more of some time apart. It is not you, it is me. See you soon.
It’s been about a week now and I have to say that it is GREAT to be free of the chains that are the obsession of looking at Facebook.
The first day or so I have to admit that I missed it. It is literally like trying to kick a drug addiction. Looking at Facebook a few times a day had become so normal and part of my daily life that to just stop cold turkey was actually very hard. I was so used to reading about what everyone was doing that I just HAD to know what was going on.
And to make things worse, Facebook was everywhere around me. On the internet browsers on my laptop it was a preset tab. On my office computers it was a bookmark because we have business pages for our companies. On my smart phone it was an easy one touch button to access the site. Facebook was literally in my face (pun intended) everywhere I turned.
There was a few times where I admit that I was weak. I logged in and just read what others were posting but did not post myself. No status updates. No comments made about my friends updates. No pictures uploaded and no videos shared. Nothing. But after the second day away from the site I realized that there was really no reason to log in if I was not going to participate.
Do I really care if my friends are at the store, or the park, or the bar, or the movies, or at home, or eating dinner, or taking a nap, or pissed off, or in a relationship, or suddenly single, or playing Farmville, or traveling, or WHATEVER? The real answer is honestly NO. Of course I wish no harm to ever come to the people on my Facebook friends list, but did I actually need to know what they were doing every minute of the day? Again, No.
Before Facebook (and Myspace before it) no one ever cared about these things, or needed to know what everyone around them was doing at all times of the day. Now we have become so linked by Facebook (and other social networking sites like Twitter and others) that we feel somehow empty if we are unaware of the every moves and happenings of our friends. Are all these people really our “friends”? Does anyone have a clue what a “friend” actually is anymore. A “friend” was someone that you actually spent time with. A “friend” was someone that you actually spoke with in person. Now a Facebook “friend” is just another click on your mouse. Many of the “friends” on my Facebook list I had not spoken to in person or even seen in ….. years.
Facebook had started to bore me over the past year as I saw it more and more for the incredible time waster it is. I started posting movie quotes to see who could guess what movie they were fun. I posted music videos from artists I liked. I posted links to many many websites or articles I found interesting. And then I would go back to posting about my life and what was going on in my life on that day. What was actually accomplished by ANY of these posts?
We have accounts for our businesses with Facebook and other social networking sites and those serve a specific purpose to help promote and grow those companies. But how was my personal Facebook page anything but time I was wasting?
So here is what I will be missing if I never return to Facebook:
Here is what I will be able to do by not being on Facebook:
The shaking and sweating from kicking the “Facebook habit” have passed. As I posted in my last update I might come back occasionally and I am not deleting my account yet. But it only took 5 days to basically move on. I feel liberated and it feels really really good
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